By giving thoughtful praise and explaining why they value someone, they build confidence, kindness and respectful communication skills.
1. Introduce praise
Talk with your child about why it feels good when somebody notices something positive about us or praises something we have done.
2. Discuss special qualities
Ask your child what kinds of things people can be praised for.
For example:
3. Model an example
Choose someone you both know and give them a thoughtful compliment.
For example:
"I really like spending time with Sam because he always makes people feel included."
4. Choose someone to praise
Ask your child to think of someone they know and say something positive about them.
5. Explain why
Encourage your child to go a little further by explaining why they chose that quality or what the person has done to show it.
6. Choose someone new
Repeat the activity, encouraging your child to think of a different positive quality each time.
Children often become much more thoughtful once they realise praise can focus on personality and behaviour rather than appearance alone. Encourage warm supportive responses and celebrate all contributions positively.
Lucy Quick, Principal of Perform.
