Confidence and self-esteem both play an important role in how children see themselves and approach new experiences but they are not quite the same. Positive encouragement, recognising effort and celebrating achievements can help children build belief in their abilities and feel proud of who they are, while also encouraging them to notice and support the achievements of others.
Confidence vs self-esteem
- Confidence is about believing you can do something. A child might feel confident speaking in front of a group, trying a new activity or joining in with others.
- Self-esteem is about how a child sees and values themselves overall. It helps them recognise their strengths, accept mistakes and feel positive about who they are.
The two often work together. As children try new things and discover what they're capable of, they can build confidence in their abilities and feel more secure in themselves.
It's important to note, confidence doesn't always mean being loud or outgoing. For one child, it might mean performing in front of a group; for another, it could be simply feeling comfortable enough to share an idea or join in.
How can I help build my child's confidence?
There are lots of small ways to encourage confidence and healthy self-esteem in everyday life.
- Praise their effort
Try to notice the effort behind an achievement rather than focusing only on the result. Recognising perseverance, kindness or the courage to have a go can help children understand that success isn't only about getting something right.
- Give them opportunities to try
Trying a new hobby, joining a club or taking part in an extracurricular activity can give children the chance to discover new interests and build confidence in a different environment. Having opportunities to try something unfamiliar, without pressure to get it right straight away, gives children space to explore at their own pace.
- Make mistakes feel normal
Things won't always go to plan. Helping children see mistakes as part of learning can make new experiences feel less intimidating and encourage them to keep trying.
- Be specific with encouragement
Instead of simply saying "well done", try pointing out what you noticed: "You kept going even when that was tricky" or "I loved how clearly you explained your idea." Specific praise helps children recognise their own strengths and progress.
Building confidence through drama
Activities outside the classroom can also give children opportunities to build confidence in a supportive environment. Drama, in particular, encourages children to express themselves, contribute ideas and become more comfortable being seen and heard.
Taking on different characters and working with others gives them space to try things in a playful, low-pressure way, helping confidence develop naturally over time.
The power of positive encouragement at Perform
This week at Perform, our 4-7s are exploring Power of Praise, while our 7-12s are focusing on Kind Words Matter.
Through drama and group activities, children will practise giving and receiving encouragement, recognising effort and supporting one another.
If you'd like to see how Perform helps children build confidence and communication skills, we'd love to welcome your child along for a completely free, no-obligation trial session.
Book your childs free trial class today and discover Perform for yourself.
