By exploring different ways to say no, children develop communication skills, self-confidence and the ability to express boundaries clearly.
1. Introduce the purpose
Explain that the game is about practising how to say no when someone suggests something they don't want to do. Discuss why it's important to explain reasons clearly and confidently.
2. Demonstrate the game
Always model first using two adults. Explain the roles: Child A tries to persuade, Child B practises saying no.
3. Give a simple suggestion
Have Child A offer a low-level, safe "naughty" suggestion, such as making a face at an adult or borrowing someone's pencil without asking.
4. Practice refusing
Child B must refuse and explain why they don't want to do it. Child A continues trying to persuade, using gentle pressure and changing their wording. Child B stays calm, firm and resolute.
5. Invite children to play
Once demonstrated, invite pairs of children to try, ensuring all suggestions remain age-appropriate and safe.
This exercise is extremely valuable for building real-life confidence and I devised it after a mum asked me to help her daughter with this skill. Children learn that saying no doesn't have to be rude or aggressive and that it can be clear, calm and reasoned. Practising this in a safe drama setting helps children feel prepared to handle peer pressure and stand up for themselves outside the classroom, too.
Lucy Quick, Principal of Perform.
